Open Question: honest help and advice?

to start off, i'm 16, junior in high school. i live with my mom, dad, sister. basically, i've come to and end. i'm just not sure where to go from here. i'm considering emancipation hopefully within the next 6-8 months. i've been looking into it and obviously you have to have a logical reason for the court to grant it to you. so i was wondering if any of the problems i have would qualify me. basically, life for me is school, working, cleaning, sleeping. that is it. during the average week, i get up at 6 30 every day. do an hour of chores. go to school. come home. chores until about 8. homework. dinner. help sister/ do sisters homework while she plays wii. dinner dishes. feed pets. and by then, its usually around 11 or 12 so i barely have time to shower. i dont ever sleep well because in our 5 bedroom house, my dad needs his own room, (ill get into their relationship shortly) my mom needs her own room/studio, my sister needs her own playroom, and we need a laundry room. so i have to share a room... my sister is an INSANE sleeptaker. who at least 5 times a night shakes me ridiculously hard and scares she shit out of me to wake me up and temm me she has to pee, or some jibberish. not exagerating.. its bad. so i go to bed at about 1230..get around 4-5 hours of sleep a night. maybe less. wake up at 6 30. ect. basically, im always running on full blast, but with no fuel. i hardly have time to feed myself or pack lunch for myself because im always making food for others, because i'm a vegeterian. anyway, my social life used to be wonderful. it was my safe place. the place i could go to get out of the arguments, out of all the work, and finally just relax and be a teenager for 5 seconds. i was on the absoulte top of the social scale at my school, and had great friends that i've been with since elementery school. i loved every second of it. recently, my parents' relationship has been spiraling downward. actually, its been on the way since i was born. my parents have both told me several times to my face "i ended there career" i ruined their chances of fame.. i was just a mistake... i should have been that abortion...ect. (they used to live in hollywood and had their own band, hence the need for the seperate studio room and all the equipment, and were actually semi-famous in the 80's/90's until they got pregnant and had to sell their prized downtown hollywood home, leave their bandmates and possible future fame, stop doing drugs, and settle down from the party life) so basically they blame me. constantly. which takes a toll. anyway. for around the past few years, ive been abused, (hit, kicked, pushed, smacked, slapped, hit with projectiles, pushed down stairs, kicked in stomache and ribs, pushed into things, verbally abused to the MAX, using just about every name in the book, emotionally abused, ect.) but having those great friends who cared made life okay. it made the weeks of work and stress and torture worth the weekend. they are honestly the only times i can say i'm happy. my sister is always babied, no matter WHAT. always. im expected to do her work, feed her animals, clean her bathroom, do her laundry, pick up her clothes/toys, feed her, clean her half of the room/make her bed, clean her furniture, and basically wait on her. ) my mom is a complete neat freak btw, as in OCD, which doesnt help the matter. anyway, my mom has no longer found the need to defend me from my dad when he's angry, (all the time, he's a post-cancer survivor and has serious un-handled mental trauma from almost passing away) so i take the fall for everything. i am literally the family spacegoat. if he has a bad day at work, i get hit and grounded. when he forgets to pay the propane bill, i get kicked and told i'm a fucki*g piece of shit. but like i said, friends made it worth the while. lately, i have not been allowed out of my house, at all, for any reason. i've been as kind and responsible and as helpfull as ever, baking things for my family, maintaining good grades, being an extremely helpfull nice person, and i get nothing in return. its just too much. my friends have pretty much forgotten about me, because every time they see me, and ask to hang out, they dont even have to wait for my reply... im grounded. half of them think i'm lying..because who could ever be grounded this much? i am. it hurts so bad to see them all walk off every day to go do what we all used to do together.. since elementary...inseperable..and i see them look back and shake their heads because they know no matter what or when ill be grounded. i miss my life, i need my life, i'm sick all the time now, i have insomnia, i have no appetite (5'6 and im currently as of today 103 punds)... this sounds cliche and retarded but i feel like my parents are working me to death. today for example i begged my mom for hours if i could please. go spend just an hour with my friend tommorow and she screamed, argued, hit me, and told me i wasnt worthy of being allowed to have friends.

Open Question: Is it time for grandparent/s to go to a nursing home?

My grandparents have been living at our house for the last four years ever since my grandpa got Alzheimer's. My parents, mainly my mom( who is not related to them), takes care of them. My grandpa does not wash his hands, does not shower, spits on the floor/dog, has accidents in his pants and sometimes wipes the feces on furniture, and sleeps in the chair since he refuses to sleep in his bed. Keep in mind our family has wash his hands, shower him, wipe his spit up, clean up his accidents,and try to get him to go to bed. My grandma never had to deal with anything when she was married since her husband did everything and now she still is incapable, or unwilling, to her husband. A year ago my mom was wiping my grandpa and did not wash her hands properly afterward. After dinner the majority of our family had food poisoning since my mom prepared it. My grandma does not shower, forgets to eat/drink, and never has her pills so my parents have to go in there all the time to remind her. Keep in mind that my parents make sure that us kids do not have to do the majority of the work. However, ever since they have moved in my parents have been fighting a lot and it is obviously affecting their relationship. After witnessing this, I am going to make it a priority to never make my kids go through this! I love my grandparents, but it has gotten to the point where it is getting mentally/draining on my parents not to mention a health hazard. Do you guys think it would be better for my grandparents or at least my grandpa to be in a nursing home? If yes, how should I bring it up to my parents? If no, how can my parents deal with this better? Thanks for the help!

Open Question: my mom passed away from liver cancer 2 weeks ago....read details*?

im 17 and a boy in high school. i miss her very much as she was my buddy that i could tell everything to. i come home from school to a quiet house. instead of hearing "how was ur day" or seomthign like that its nothing...just dust gathering up on tables and furniture and a big empty house. My dad is horrible, i am ashamed to call him my father and embarrassed to call him my father. he isn't even a father, hes a scum bag criminal...and a bad person, unlike me. But anyways, i kind of have no parents...and its not all that fun having "no rules"....it sucks. i want my old life back. i want to be grounded and i want to have a family to ask me how my day has been or anything. so...what do i do? just wait anxiously for college and hope to make tons of friends and start a family of my own one day?....because thats the only possible solution i can think of. should i just forget my family?... and i have 2 sisters. one is at college and i barely see her. the other is in high school and a very bad kid, and i mean bad as in (drugs, emo, stupid, etc.)....im the only good kid..make all a's, going to a prestigous college, etc....im just sick of this nonsense stupid family. i wish i had a good, healthy, responsible, loving, smart, honest, clean family. anyways. i miss my mom. hardly have a father....$&%$! im borrred as hell now what do i do?

Open Question: What right does my wife has over 'matrimonial home' which belongs to my parents (per India Law / Hindu Commun)?

In Indian Law / or Hindu marriage system it has given been so much privileges for 'wife' or bahu, that now my parents are leading a miserable and worried life. Let me explain my question again in detail ( i tried writing this earlier) When I got married (around 6 yrs back) I was staying with my parents in house A, so my wife became member of that family and member of that house 'A' (with furniture items that her parents gifted and other gifts in marriage). [And that is called her "matrimonial home".] Now my parents sold the House 'A' 2-years back and moved to House 'B' (which was acquired by my parents many years back) and in the process me and my wife (with her belongings) also moved to house 'B' with my parents. But after shifting for last two years my wife (and her parents) have been quite complaining about the size of the new house (and in the process spreading word around that we have shifted to the new house to uncomfort their daughter and they complain that new house is small and their daughter is having compromise living). The real reason is that my parent's older house was near to my wife's parents house and they were visiting us every week (or 2nd) which my parents (and me too) would not like. At the time of marriage, I was employed with a pvt firm earning medium, my wife was not employed. But i financed her study (professional course) after marriage and she also got employed for last 1.5 yrs earning moderately. Recently during all this continuing complaints and quarrels by my wife after we shifted to new house 'B', I discussed idea to my wife that we should shift to rented house as affordable as per our income. To which her immediate and aggressive advise is that to ask my parents to sell this house and buy a bigger house (as if she is the owner or has very authoritative rights ), OR if better possible two separate houses. (And then the same viewpoint has been pressurized by her parents as well.) So now the rift is turning ugly with each day and i have been leading a traumatized / worried life that my wife don't have a quarrel with my parents or our domestic quarrels turn into legal problems. From legal angle (Indian court or Hindu community) following questions: 1) Does my wife has any legal right over the sum generated by selling property 'A' since she was living in that house at the time of selling it? 2) And how can my parents execute the action of asking us (me and my wife and our 1 kid) to leave this house. Because my wife's parents have told in threatening argument to my father/mother that please don't make our daughter leave this residence. " My opinion in this is that me and my wife should live in a separate house with our own income. " 3) Can i arrange the transport one fine day and take mine and my wife's articles and move to a rented house. I'm suspecting that my in-laws would take action on 'disproportionate of Dowry assets' ground or 'Stridhan' funda or something similar to that. Is that a strong point they can action through police against me or my parents. Please share your detailed advise on this specific point. Or let me know more smarter ways of handling this situation.I 4) Can my father execute some 'will' that this greedy wife of mine (supported by her parents) get nothing out of the property/money in present or in future. How would my situation be then effected in terms of inheritance from my parents. 5) Also alternatively is there a legal way that my parents can take so that my wife's parents/relatives can be strictly stopped from visiting my parents house even on festivals / birthdays etc. 6) Can i take action on ground of mental harassment against me, disturbance of my peace, Loss of my prestige (man-hani). I have developed illness with High BP and on regular medicine. (Or i have to bear all this for being a male in Indian society). My in-laws threat me of police action every now and then. Any other suggestion??? >> HI Vijay! i take a note of your answer. Thanks. >>I'm thankful to other answer providers as well.( For those whoe have seen my question earlier, since I have been writing with a different email earlier, since i messed up with that login details, so again writing with this one) Additional Info : I am the only son, and have only one sister who is married and has separate family/house.

Open Question: Husband joining the Army! Have a few questions?

Hi. I am 20 years old, and my husband is joining the army. He leaves for boot camp in just a few weeks. I have had family in the military, just never had to go with them, and had to move all around. What is a good base? State side? We currently live in NC. Should we do on or off base housing? What is base life like? What is military life like? I have dated a guy in the military but wasn't married to him. After he leaves how long does it take until the medical coverage kicks in? Can anyone just give me some tips and some insite on what life is going to be like? I know he is going to be gone, and I plan on coming home if he is ever on deployment for a long time, I know how deployments work, and most things, just want some insite! Does any of the housing have furniture or anything? Will we pick where we want to live as in what house and stuff, when will we be able to do that? Thanks so much for all the answers I do recieve in the future!!

Resolved Question: What would you do if you won $200,000 (after taxes)?

I want you to really think about it. If you had that much money overnight how would you spend it the next day and weeks/months to come? Knowing that it will eventually run out what would be the most important things to pay for right now? Im just wondering the point of views of other people. I was fantaszing it would happen to me earlier and its been on my mind for a while. I am in a bad situation in my life right now I dont even have a place to live. And I guess I was juts hoping something good will happen to me and bail me out of this mess. Oh that would be so great! LOLGod knows I sure do need all I can get. Anyway I am very interested in all your answers and curious to know what you would write. In case you are wondering what I would do with it you can read the following: For me it would mean: 1.) Buy a place to call home for me and my daughters.....$10,000-$15,000. (I just want a nice mobile home that is decent and pretty. I know most of you think its lame but honestly i dont see anything wrong in that. Some of them are really nice!) 2.) Furniture and decor for my place......$7,000-$9,000 (I love to decorate and I think I would do a good job on this budget.) 3.) Pay off my car......$9,000 (Its about to get repossesed :( I wish I could just throw the money in thier face and tell them to leave me alone.) 4.) Pay off all other debt like student loan, credit card, and collection bills....$10,000 5.) Pay off my mother's bills and debts as well as my sisters....$20,000 6.) Help my sister pay off her house..........$25,000 7.) Buy her a used car in great condition....$5,000 (She wont mind) 8.) Help out my family in Mexico...............$7,000( My poor people they are suffering over there.) 9.) Help my closest friends......................$20,000 10.) Take a few vacations........................$10,000 ( I can make 2 happen on this budget. I would go to Hawaii and Seattle with my mom and daughters) 11.) Help animals and children through donations....... $20,000 That would leave me with $50,000 and I would save this for as long as I can and probably live off of this for a while until I find a good enough job that would keep us stable. I wouldnt go spend it all crazy because I would regret it later although I would really want another car a NEW one but for what? I already have a decent one I just need to pay it off ya know? If this would just happen to me I would be the happiest woman in the world knowing that I everything will be ok! I wouldnt exactly have finacial freedom but i would have peace of mind! Maybe it wont last a life time or a LONG time but I know we would be ok because I would spend it responsibly. Oh gosh, and one of the best parts of this expirience would be that my daughters' father will have his jaw wide open for days! He kicked us out and spend the little bit money we (mostley mine that me and my daughters recieve from welfare) had on liqour and other women. He even traded our food stamps for cash. It would be so awsome if I was just blessed this way somehow and just throw it all in his face. Actually I wouldnt even talk to him about it. I would change my number and stay as far away from him as possible. Go to the courts and prove he doesnt care about the kids and he would just be trying to get in for the money. I wouldnt give him any because he is untrustworthy a womanizer and an alcholic. We need it more. He left us the way we are. Im sorry thats a whole other subject. Im sorry I write too much. LOL You didnt have to read it all just the top part. I just got a little carried away I guess. My bad! Ok thanks everyone in advance!

Resolved Question: Seriously what would you do if you won $200,000 (after taxes)?

I want you to really think about it. If you had that much money overnight how would you spend it the next day and weeks/months to come? Knowing that it will eventually run out what would be the most important things to pay for right now? Im just wondering the point of views of other people. I was fantaszing it would happen to me earlier and its been on my mind for a while. I am in a bad situation in my life right now I dont even have a place to live. And I guess I was juts hoping something good will happen to me and bail me out of this mess. Oh that would be so great! LOLGod knows I sure do need all I can get. Anyway I am very interested in all your answers and curious to know what you would write. In case you are wondering what I would do with it you can read the following: For me it would mean: 1.) Buy a place to call home for me and my daughters..............$10,000-$15,000. (I just want a nice mobile home that is decent and pretty. I know most of you think its lame but honestly i dont see anything wrong in that. Some of them are really nice!) 2.) Furniture and decor for my place........................................$7,000-$9,000 (I love to decorate and I think I would do a good job on this budget.) 3.) Pay off my car..................................................................$9,000 (Its about to get repossesed :( I wish I could just throw the money in thier face and tell them to leave me alone.) 4.) Pay off all other debt like student loan, credit card, and collection bills.....$10,000 5.) Pay off my mother's bills and debts as well as my sisters.......................$20,000 6.) Help my sister pay off her house...........................................................$25,000 7.) Buy her a used car in great condition....................................................$5,000 (She wont mind) 8.) Help out my family in Mexico...............................................................$7,000( My poor people they are suffering over there.) 9.) Help my closest friends.......................................................................$20,000 10.) Take a few vacations.........................................................................$10,000 ( I can make 2 happen on this budget. I would go to Hawaii and Seattle with my mom and daughters) 11.) Help animals and children through donations...................................... $20,000 That would leave me with $50,000 and I would save this for as long as I can and probably live off of this for a while until I find a good enough job that would keep us stable. I wouldnt go spend it all crazy because I would regret it later although I would really want another car a NEW one but for what? I already have a decent one I just need to pay it off ya know? If this would just happen to me I would be the happiest woman in the world knowing that I everything will be ok! I wouldnt exactly have finacial freedom but i would have peace of mind! Maybe it wont last a life time or a LONG time but I know we would be ok because I would spend it responsibly. Oh gosh, and one of the best parts of this expirience would be that my daughters' father will have his jaw wide open for days! He kicked us out and spend the little bit money we (mostley mine that me and my daughters recieve from welfare) had on liqour and other women. He even traded our food stamps for cash. It would be so awsome if I was just blessed this way somehow and just throw it all in his face. Actually I wouldnt even talk to him about it. I would change my number and stay as far away from him as possible. Go to the courts and prove he doesnt care about the kids and he would just be trying to get in for the money. I wouldnt give him any because he is untrustworthy a womanizer and an alcholic. We need it more. He left us the way we are. Im sorry thats a whole other subject. Im sorry I write too much. LOL You didnt have to read it all just the top part. I just got a little carried away I guess. My bad! Ok thanks everyone in advance!

Open Question: How can I politely tell people who visit my home not to sit on my furniture?

My chairs and sofa are oldish and inherited and very nice and sometimes the people who come to my home (friends ,family members, my husband's work colleagues and my children's friends) can be a bit scuzzy, scruffy and generally in need of a wash. I don't want them to get my furniture oily, dirty or greasy/ruined. If someone is a bit greasy looking, how can I stop them from sitting on my chairs/sofa, without offending them or being too upfront?

Resolved Question: Ungrateful family members!!!!!!!!!....................10 points for best answer?

Me and my fiancee live together and I'm expecting our first child in July I'm 19 weeks pregnant. My family has just relocated closer to us, in the same town. Since they have been here they have asked us to do things for them every day!!! And my fiancee works shift work. My mum, sister and brother stayed with us in our one bedroom house for a month until they bought a house, we got AUS $100 total for them all staying with us, mum did help us out with food but we are going to end up with a massive power bill because they had the air conditioning on "every single night". ( that's no exaggeration ) my sister almost lived off my internet too. We cooked most nights also. Since they moved out into there new home we thought we were safe but it just got worse/ mum messages us nearly every second day to come and pick up her recycling and stuff she wants to take to the second hand shop. So we feel like we have to do it. We have carted heaps of stuff back and forth from our house to the new house, we even gave them our sofa bed to have while at the house. Whenever asked I pick my younger brother up from school or drop him off My sisters boyfriend moved over recently so my sister and him have moved out into there own place so we had to pack all of my sisters things into our car and take it up to their place, we also carted the big sofa bed up there too cause she wanted it, we gave them a little bar fridge and still they haven't offered us any money for. My sister and her boyfriend wanted to pick up some furniture so they paid us petrol to do it, but they hired a massive big trailer and our car had alot of trouble pulling it, after taking the trailer off the car felt like it had something wrong so I messaged my sister telling her "I don't think we can pull the trailer again tomorrow cause i think there's something wrong with the car", but I got no reply from her, so the next day we went up and had to cart the trailer around again but this time they didn't pay for petrol. And didn't care if the trailer was too much for the car. My mum asked us (me & my boyfriend) to take her to the airport because she was meeting her partner over where they use to live to finish up everything, the airport is 170km away so there and back is 340km she was only going to offer us AUS $20 Petrol to get there and back but that wouldn't even get us there with our 6 cylinder car!!! So my sister took her in her car. Mum also said and she offered me and my bf AUS $100 to take care of my little brother for a week, well as soon as she got on the plane and arrived she was complaining to other family members that we were asking too much money from her!!!! I can't complain to my sister about mum cause my sister tells our mum everything I say!! I have done so much for my family more that what I have written here and in the end were the bad ones!! How can I deal with this problem??? I'm not doing anything like that for them again..... Help :'(

Voting Question: Have you ever been in white peoples homes?

my new job that i hate, but its worth doing since its going to rich folks home and delivering them things to their families or friends or themselves and I swear its like white people DO get everything I just came from this ladys house who was anxious of me to come and lived in a rolled out luxury penthouse, marble floor, spotless furniture, the bedrooms look like rooms you see in ikea magazines and to top it off city light view how come white people get everything? its not fair